On Harley's Wedding Day

Friday, July 29, 2011

We're so excited about this guest post today. In honor of The Happiest Day of Harley's Life, Alana is here today to talk about newly-married life.

Hello, lovely H&J readers! I'm Alana from Mrs. Alana's Miscellany. When I heard the girls were looking for some guest posts, I was excited to help out. I'm a newlywed myself (one month and counting!) so I know just how crazy-busy wedding week is. But I'm here to tell you a little bit about how amazing newlywedness is (nice word, right?). So here's a few things I've learned over the past month, that I wish someone had told me.

the perks of being a newlywed

You can get away with just about anything, like sitting on the same side of a booth, taking photos of everything, celebrating every single "first", and screening phone calls.

Don't feel guilty for taking some time for yourselves. Turn your phone off (this one was hard for me). Don't check your email. Reserve every minute of those first few days for you and your new husband. Real life will resume soon enough.

Everything is new! There are so many firsts, from introducing him as your husband to signing your new name. Enjoy every second, because one day everything will be old hat and while that's great too, you gotta love that new smell.

Keep a journal handy and jot down all those sweet moments, silly jokes, and anything you can imagine yourself reading in fifty years and smiling through your dentures. Those first days are precious. Make them last forever.

You can be as cheesy and lovey-dovey as you want, both online and in real life. Be so cheesy that you yourself have to fight the urge to roll your eyes. It's okay, I promise.

Enjoy the little things. For me, one of the best things about being married is having someone to go to sleep with and wake up next to. It's a simple thing, but I love it.

Pray together. You'll grow closer to each other and God. Win-win.

Say what you're thinking. Ok, maybe not always, but at least when it's something good. Every time you're staring at him, thinking how gorgeous he is, how lucky you are, how awesome being married is, how glad you are that he doesn't have a unibrow/hairy back/goiter say it. He will never get tired of hearing it, and you'll make him feel like the luckiest man alive.

Remember that even the best marriage can't be unicorns and rainbows ALL the time. Don't think that any of that means that you aren't great together. Conflict is not only normal, it's productive. When you take the time to work through stuff together, you grow as a couple. So when you have a disagreement, stop and say "Yay!" (Ok, don't do that or he'll think you're crazy. But you get my point.)

I hope you can take something useful from my little list. If you're curious about my newlywed experience or just want to tell me how annoyingly cheesy I am, feel free to stop by and say hello!

Unicorns and rainbows,



  1. Aw :) sweet, romantic post.

  2. My sister has been in town so I just noticed this! I'm so honored I got to guest post on Harley's big day. :)

  3. Totally agree. I'm not exactly a newly-wed anymore, since it's been five years, but I remember that first year, especially, with so much thankfulness. We fought a lot and laughed a lot and loved a lot and it was pretty great.

    Congratulations to you, Harley! Hope your wedding was wonderful!

  4. i'm a newlywed as well (on the honeymoon as we speak) and all of this was perfect! thanks for sharing some great advice!!


  5. Nice read, I just passed this onto a colleague who was doing some research on that. And he just bought me lunch as I found it for him smile Thus let me rephrase that: Thanks for lunch! my wedding