This post is serious.

Thursday, April 12, 2012

I have so many thoughts.

My husband and I often talk about what we want to accomplish. What we want the real aim of our lives to be. Is it money? Is it family? Every day what is it that I am waking up and feeling passionate about? I must have a greater purpose than school, this blog, or Pinterest right? Who am I influencing? Who am I building up with my words? Do I improve myself everyday? Do I live my life to its greatest potential?

All of those questions leave me feeling inspired to live better.
Cause shouldn't that all be what we are doing?
Living life each day more passionately?
More fully?
More joyfully?

Sometimes we have set backs. I recognize this. And sometimes we feel like we can't go on. But we do. And it all compiles into this journey each of us gets to take.

We are on the earth.
We have a God who loves us!
We have moments of joy that couldn't be bought with money.

I by no means live a perfect life in which everyday I increase my capacity for kindness. Sometimes I get grumpy. And heaven knows I snap at people. My poor husband. I can do better. I can be nicer. I can love more. This is what I want my life to be. I want those around me to feel lifted.

This semester I am in my Senior capstone class for advertising. We are working with a really tricky client. With a group of 7 sometimes we feel unmotivated, but there is one boy in our group that somehow leaves every single one of us feeling better than when we got there. He lifts us. Encourages us. Motivates us to produce work that we thought we were incapable of.

I want to be like this. I want to leave people better than when I found them.

Every year before the start of a new school year I would get "the lecture." My Dad would always say the same thing. Here I am in college and every time before a new semester starts this conversation plays itself out.

Dad: "And what are you going to do this year?'
Me: "Be nice to everyone."
Dad: "That's right... because everyone needs a friend."

I was reading blogs the other day and a fellow blogger was personally attacked on a forum. I would put the link here, but it doesn't deserve any more traffic. It wasn't even me being criticized, but I was completely crushed.

There is so much unkindness in the world. I remember when Mean Girls came out in theaters. My mom took me to see it at the age of 13 because Dr. Phil told her too. As funny as the movie is there is so much truth.

So today. I am going to be a little nicer. Gossip is officially not a part of my vocabulary because surely there are better things that I could be doing.

I might even do the dishes when I get home.



  1. GREAT POST!! It is bad enough kids have to deal with meanness...I cringe when I see it in adults.

  2. i love that you dad said that to you every year...and amen to the comment above, adults are just as bad as kids most times. i want my children to treat other people well above all else -- they'll know that belittling and gossiping have no place in our home...and we'll always invite the kids who are left out to come to our home and be our friends. this is my favorite life goal.

  3. I completely agree with you. Sometimes I catch myself slipping into bad habits and then I have to remind myself that I am here on this Earth for a different purpose.

    I hope to spread love and happiness and I think the world would be a better place if people kept this morn in mind.

    Thank you for the food for thought.

    :) Ewa

  4. We watched pass it forward last night for one of Jer's classes and it just made me feel exactly what this post did. Everyone I meet each day needs to be uplifted in some small way, so why can't I make there life easier while making mine more fulfilling as well? Great post!

  5. what a great post, definitely inspirational.

  6. Love this post and you hit it right on. I need to be less snappy with my students. They start to get on my nerves and then sometimes I just say things that aren't nice. This is a great reminder. Thanks!